We're having filet

Just so you know, Neil and I settled our dispute about the pizza fondue, and we're just going to eat filet mignon for his birthday dinner. Fine by me, I love steak, especially filet mignon. I went out to this butcher/deli we had been told about in Troy and it was awesome! Only $8 a lb for filet mignon and $1.15 a lb for a whole chicken. So I got a chicken too... Neil really likes the way my dad makes chicken soup, so I thought I could give it a try. I'm sure I can make it just as well. :)

I don't know what had gotten into us both yesterday, but we were arguing like crazy. Sometimes we have days like that, where neither one of us will back down. We each feel like our point is so important and that we have to make it. Once we settled the pizza fondue dispute, we got into an argument because I had ordered invitations for our reception (to invite the people who we don't want to feed to still party with us) and set the time for 9pm. He got his panties in a bunch because he thought that was too late and I should have put 8.30 on the invite instead and why didn't I check with him first to make sure it is right...after I already had ordered the invites and in my head, 2 1/2 to 3 hours is plenty of time for these people who we're not all that close to, to come dance at our reception. Our reception will go til midnight even though Neil is convinced it will be over by 11.30.

Another stupid thing that's weighing on my mind about the wedding plans is the photography. We had discussed with our photographer and agreed that we'd take pictures at 3.30 before the ceremony. She sent me an email and asked if it was possible to start at 2:45, shooting the guys (groomsmen) and his family, and then I would be ready at 3.30 so we could take pictures of him and I and then my family. It didn't really make a difference to me, except that I asked her if we'd have her long enough to get all the shots since we only have her for 5 hours. She'd be done at 7.45, but she made it sound like she didn't think it'd be a big deal and that she'd make sure to get all the pictures. Well, Neil thinks she's gonna be eying her watch and at 7.45 if we're still doing the wedding party dance it won't matter because she'll be gone. Sigh. Oh and on top of that, his mom was freaking out on him about it saying that she's going to have too much to do and she won't be ready by then.

Disclaimer: I know no one actually reads this blog, so I'm just going to say this, and if someone reads it and is offended by this, I apologize... but this is what I'm thinking.
Why is everyone so concerned about themselves with regard to my wedding to Neil? Shouldn't it be about us?

If a relative or family member of mine was getting ready to get married, I wouldn't expect them to bend over backwards to accommodate me. I would do everything in my power to make it easier for them, because they're stressed out as it is.

So I'm going to have to talk to my photographer about sticking to our original plan, which is fine by me because I won't be ready until then anyway, and I really want to make sure she is able to catch the important pictures during the reception too. And I just sent Neil a message to ask if he would mind doing it for me since I'm at my internship and my loving husband to be asks why he has to do it. Maybe because it's him and his mother making such a big deal about it...

I feel like I'm doing this all by myself. I just need a little support every once in a while.